The excitement of the new year is already starting to wane. The extra niceness and grace people extended during the holidays no longer exists. WHY? The extra holiday joy is gone because everyone is tired 😴 and reality is beginning to set in. The truth is the year is only new if you make new choices. Our circumstances will not change unless we change. Yes, circumstances may impact our lives on one level but on another level, our lives are the results of series of decisions we have made or not made.
Whether you are a student, professional, full-time parent, unemployed, or retired - we all have roles and responsibilities. You can’t control everything that happens in your life but you can control the level of effort and enthusiasm with which you meet each challenge. You can say, “I don’t want to climb this mountain.”, with each step and discourage yourself on your way up - or you can decide each step is taking me closer to my goal.
Let's conduct a "new-year-new-me" self-inventory:
What task will you tackle TODAY that you have been avoiding?
Why have you continued to procrastinate?
What excuses have helped you remain stuck?
What are the benefits of getting the task(s)done?
How will you practice self-love this week?
How will you carve out time for yourself?
Once you have completed an honest self-assessment, begin to prioritize your goals and recommit to making decisions that will move you forward. Here are some questions to ask yourself:
Can you tackle anything that has been placed on the back burner?
What steps will you take?
What is your timeline?
Where do you factor “ ME” into your week (rest is alow a part of progress)?
Do you put work, family, friends, and church before yourself?
How do you feel when you say YES to yourself? We teach others to treat us and love us the way we love ourselves.
Remember to be gentle with yourself as you reset your goal. Focus on one major win at a time so you can build your confidence. Also, don't forget to silence your inner voice by telling yourself positive affirmations. Here are some examples of what I tell myself:
SELF LOVE IS MOVING FORWARD
I AM MAKING THE MOST OF TODAY
TODAY WILL BE PRODUCTIVE
I HAVE ALL THAT I NEED FOR TODAY
I HAVE CREATIVE SOLUTIONS
I LOVE MYSELF AND TAKE TIME FOR ME
I hope these journaling prompts were helpful for you. See you on the other side of your wins!
Yetunde is a wife, mother, educator, advocate, business owner, and Mental Health Care provider. She has worked with children for over 18 years, taught in New Jersey public schools for 12 years, and has spent the past 6 years working in Behavioral Health. Yetunde holds degrees in English, Secondary Education, and Applied Behavior Analysis. She has special interests in Autism Spectrum Disorders, Communicative Disorders, severe problem behaviors, self-care, teaching parents how to advocate for their children, and navigate bureaucratic processes that often hinder access to receiving quality education or critical services. She is also the owner of Badewa Royal Butters.