Healing Emotional Wounds: Sis, It's Time to Set Yourself Free

There’s pain—and then there’s soul pain.

You know the kind I’m talking about. The ache that lingers long after the moment has passed. The thing that happened years ago that still creeps into your thoughts when you're tired, triggered, or doubting yourself. The memory you don't talk about, but the one that's shaped how you see yourself—and how you let others treat you.

Yep, that pain. That’s a soul wound.

How Do Emotional Wounds Enter Our Lives?

Emotional, or soul wounds, don’t always come from catastrophic events. Often, they come in quietly. A cruel rumor spread in the 9th grade. The moment you walked into the cafeteria, you felt everyone’s eyes judging you. Being called “fast” for simply developing early, or for a mistake you made when you were still figuring out who you were.

Maybe it was being shamed in front of a youth group. Or getting caught up in a situationship that left you empty and ashamed.

Soul wounds emerge when we're deeply hurt in moments when we're most vulnerable, especially in our identity, dignity, or sense of belonging.

How Can You Tell You Have a Soul Wound?

Some signs you’re living with an unhealed soul wound:

• You downplay yourself or your dreams, even when you're clearly gifted.

• You avoid new relationships or opportunities because you’re afraid of being seen “too much” or “not enough.”

• You keep over-performing just to feel worthy.

• You shrink in rooms where you should be shining.

• You still feel tied to something someone said about you… years ago.

  
  

Soul wounds don’t just affect how we see ourselves—they affect how we show up in everything. From how we parent, to who we date, to how we lead.

Here’s the good news: God never intended for you to carry that pain alone. In fact, He’s deeply invested in your healing. Psalm 147:3 says, "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds."

God wants your soul to be whole, not just patched up with perfectionism and busyness, but restored. Because the version of you that’s free—free from shame, from silence, from the fear of being too much—is the one that walks in purpose, power, and peace.

He’s not asking for your performance. He’s asking for your permission.

So, How Do We Heal Deep Emotional Wounds?

Sis, soul healing isn’t about pretending it didn’t happen. It’s about creating sacred space to feel, process, and release. Here’s how to begin:

1. Name the Wound.

Be honest. That moment in 7th grade when they laughed at your body. That time you were called out for your mistakes instead of being covered. Write it down. Bring it into the light.

2. Feel Without Judgment.

Cry. Journal. Scream into a pillow. Whatever helps you release it. Don’t shame yourself for still being affected. Compassion is the soil where healing grows.

Healing the Soul of a Woman, by Joyce Meyer. Click the picture to buy the book.

3. Bring It to God.

Talk to Him like you’d talk to your closest friend. "God, this thing still hurts. I don't want it to define me anymore." Ask Him to begin the healing process. He’s not afraid of your pain. He wants to meet you in it.

4. Invite Safe Community.

Healing emotional wounds happens in loving, truth-telling spaces. Whether it’s a mentor, therapist, or soul-aligned sisterhood, don't isolate -- pray for God to send healing relationships. God often sends healing through people who reflect His heart.

5. Reclaim the Narrative.

You’re not “that girl from middle school who...” anymore. You’re a woman of wisdom, beauty, power, and resilience. Rewrite that story. You survived. Now it’s time to thrive.

God didn’t create you to live in the shadow of shame. He created you to live free, radiant, restored, and rooted in love.

So if you’ve been walking around with an unhealed soul wound, consider this your invitation:

It’s time to come home to yourself. To grieve what happened. To give yourself grace. And to let God begin the beautiful work of healing your soul deeply.

✨ Because the EZ Breezy Life was never meant to be perfect—just whole. ✨